Too Comfortable

We spend our whole lives trying to be comfortable. We attend college, so we can enough money to make ourselves comfortable, find that one person that you can be comfortable with. When does that become too much; when does being comfortable turn into too comfortable?

"Saying you're too comfortable is like saying you're too happy."

We are never too happy, unless you live in a Jamaican household, when being happy is being too happy, and you get beaten for it. I think that a boyfriend or a spouse is too comfortable when they stop wooing you; they stop caring what you think and say what they think you want to hear and don't do the simplest things they ask of you and when they are kissing you, they do it out of routine, instead of affection. And in your mind, you make excuses for them; the same way you used to shell them out when your parents asked you to do something that you really didn't want to do. "I'm too tired." "I had a bad day" "My back/neck/stomach/feet hurt." Sometimes no excuse at all, because you are so comfortable that you would rather deny yourself another BS lie than hear it and know that it's an excuse. 

Why would they need to woo you? You sleep with them and do whatever they ask without them having to ask. Because they have won you, so they think they don't have to try anymore. Occasionally they do, but it's because they don't want you to have any fodder for an argument. "We never go out anymore." "We went out last month." 

They aren't all like that, the significant others of the world, but most will get that way. How do we fix it? People have all sorts of ways: the most popular being just to stick with it because we would rather be too comfortable and slightly miserable than be alone.